Modern Love: To Stay Married, Embrace Change

On April 23rd, the New York Times Modern Love column ran the first serial of Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give. "To Stay Married, Embrace Change" is a piece of Toast 2. (It's what's known as the old-timey nurse chapter, minus the old-timey nursing.) Here's the opening: 

A couple of years ago, it seemed as if everyone I knew was on the verge of divorce.

“He’s not the man I married,” one friend told me.

“She didn’t change, and I did,” said another.

And then there was the no-fault version: “We grew apart.”

Emotional and physical abuse are clear-cut grounds for divorce, but they aren’t the most common causes of failing marriages, at least the ones I hear about. What’s the more typical villain? Change.

Read the rest here.