Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

A refreshing take on marriage.

One of the ten best memoirs of the year (W magazine), Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give shows that marriage “isn’t a happy ending, but rather an opening scene” (Times Literary Supplement). In these “warm-hearted, Ephron-esque” (Washington Post) essays inspired by her popular “Modern Love” column of the same name, Ada Calhoun offers a “funny” (Today Show), “insightful” (Star, “Hot Book”), “raw and relatable” (Brides) portrait of modern coupledom, “a thoughtful read for the monogamous, non-monogamous, and every relationship iteration in between” (New York). In the New York Times Book Review, Tom Hanks said it was the last book to make him laugh: “I mean, underlining and yellow marker bust-out laughs.” Molly Ringwald called it “the definitive meditation on marriage in all of its mystery and imperfection.”

An Amazon Best Book of July 2017

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“ONE OF THE TEN BEST MEMOIRS OF 2017…This frank collection meditates on marriage as an ever-evolving thing, one full of failure and triumph and lots of change… A hilarious relief from the 'happily ever after' narrative.” W magazine

“Ada Calhoun has written the definitive meditation on marriage in all of its mystery and imperfection. It should be required reading for anyone considering it, and highly recommended for those who want to be reminded of why they did it in the first place.”
—Molly Ringwald

“What a witty, sexy, surprising testimony to the institution of marriage! It’s the best essay collection I’ve read in a long time, just astoundingly honest and insightful about what marriage really means. And I say that as someone who has been married 20 years.”
—Karen Abbott, New York Times bestselling author of Sin in the Second City

“By turns hilariously candid, thought-provoking, and romantic, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give gave me a richer view of the joys and challenges of marriage—especially my own marriage.”
—Gretchen Rubin, New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Project

“Ada Calhoun is the friend we all need—the one who lets us behind the curtain of her good marriage to help us better understand our own. She’s smart, funny, and best of all, willing to bare all.”
—Emma Straub, New York Times bestselling author of Modern Lovers

“Extremely funny and deeply insightful. With its generous spirit and breathtaking honesty, Ada Calhoun's instruction manual of a book recalls another all-time favorite, Anne Lamott’s classic Bird by Bird. This slim volume is brimming with practical advice, and should be mandatory reading for married people and anyone who's contemplated taking the leap.”
—Davy Rothbart, author of My Heart is an Idiot

“A warm, tart, corrective to the persistent conviction that a wedding is the neat end of a love story.”
—Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of All the Single Ladies

“Brutally honest, hilarious and unsentimental—but never unkind—this is a book for anyone who has ever had a thought (good or bad) about the institution of marriage. I devoured this gem in one sitting. I want to marry this book.”
—Susannah Cahalan, New York Times bestselling author of Brain on Fire

Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give is an uncommonly gracious invitation to rethink our relationship to an institution that often seems to have us doomed before we begin. There’s been so much cant, as they used to say in the 19th century, written about marriage, but Ada Calhoun’s book is honest about the struggle to love another person without congratulating itself for being honest, and if that isn’t a spiritual discipline, I don’t know what is.”
—Carlene Bauer, author of Frances and Bernard and Not That Kind of Girl

“This unflinchingly honest, astutely balanced probe of a most perplexing institution asks all the right questions. It sets up a conversation with the reader, who is challenged to reflect at each point, choosing between ‘No, that’s not me’ and ‘How did she know that?’ Most of the time, she knows.”
– Phillip Lopate, author of The Art of the Personal Essay

“True, funny, and wise, Ada Calhoun’s insight into the nature of marriage is a compulsively readable and sneakily profound primer on all interpersonal relationships. She should be required to give a toast at every wedding, Bar Mitzvah, and funeral she attends.”
—Leah Carroll, author of Down City: A Daughter’s Story of Love, Memory, and Murder

“This really spoke to me. It’s a beautiful love letter to what marriage is. Ada Calhoun seems like she’d be a ball to hang out with. Marriage: not so bad, guys.”
– Kathryn Hahn, actress (Transparent, Crossing Jordan)

Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give Updates

Miami Book Fair!
Paperback Launch for Wedding Toasts at McNally Jackson!
Wedding Toasts on Megyn Kelly TODAY
The Cut: On the "Work" of Marriage
W Magazine: Wedding Toasts one of Top 10 Memoirs of the Year!
Third Most-Read Modern Love of 2017!
Tom Hanks/NYTBR: Wedding Toasts = "Bust-Out Laughs"
Washington Post: Wedding Toasts a Modern Take on Marriage
Weekly Standard: Wedding Toasts Is Witty!
Washington Post: Ephron-esque!
Star Magazine: Insightful, Humorous, and Relatable!
Wedding Toasts Featured on the TODAY Show!
Institute for Family Studies: "frank and humorous"
Writer's Bone: "Astonishingly astute...extremely honest...very funny"
Guardian UK: "witty, enthusiastic...required reading"
Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give Book Party Recap!
Globe & Mail: Wedding Toasts Is "Very Funny"
Brides Q&A: Wedding Toasts is "Raw and Relatable"
Powell's Q&A: Writing Wedding Toasts, and Guilty Pleasures
Austin Chronicle: Wedding Toasts written with "charm and intelligence and honesty" Excerpt: "I Loved Cheating But..."
Lit Hub Essay: "I love how you don't care what your husband thinks!"
New York Post Excerpt: "Kiss and Don't Tell?"
Time Magazine Excerpt: "The search for a soul mate is a futile one"
New York Magazine: "By Turns Funny, Melancholy, and Profound"
NYTBR: "Original, Engrossing"
Wedding Toasts on The Jenny McCarthy Show
Wedding Toasts on WNYC's the Brian Lehrer Show
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O Mag Says "Raise a Glass to these Reality-Check Essays"
NYTBR Podcast: "Romantic and Stoic"
Wedding Toasts Quotes
Wedding Toasts Tour Schedule!
Wedding Toasts in Redbook!
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